Did you know that arguing in any relationship is actually a healthy sign? Now granted, having huge blowouts or violent outbursts isn’t, but arguments in moderation are a good sign. Think about it. What are some of the reasons you would avoid arguing with someone?

  1. Someone will get mad at you
  2. It takes up too much time and energy
  3. You don’t really care about the issue that much
  4. Someone may not like you anymore

This is by no means a definitive list, but taking a look at the few items here, it doesn’t look like it’s worth the time to fight with someone, right? Look at all of those risks! Who wants to gamble with any of that? Fighting just leads from one headache to the next one, right? Wrong! If done incorrectly, yes, arguing can be a damaging thing to your relationships and your health (think of all that stress!). However, if you feel like you are arguing with someone too often or you would like to stop arguing over the same things, chances are that you aren’t really getting to the problem. Read the rest of this entry